Anonymous asked:
I dated this girl two years ago. In my mind she's the female ideal that I let slip through my fingertips. I would've loved her for her personality alone, outgoing in public, shy in private. Then you top in that she was a legitimate model in LA for a spell and I just can't get over her. And it's been two years! I've slept with other girls, hooked up with a dude, got drunk lots, moved away, etc. How do I get over her? And should I still be attracted to women with similar traits?
I think you’ve set this girl up as the embodiment of everything you want to attain. She is not actually that magical, but hindsight is cloudy and weird and you look at losing her as the loss of something cool and awesome and great. Now, I know what it’s like to regret breaking up with someone. But what happens over time, if you allow it, is that you start to be interested in other people and to realize the negative things about that relationship. I’d make a list of the not-good things about the relationship and tack it to the inside of your closet door. Read it daily as necessary.
