Hmmm. This is a really good question. Being a chatty, louder, jokey gal myself, I have often found that dudes who are attracted to those qualities tend to be quieter and less likely to make the first move. It’s a yin and yang thing, the Circle of Life, if you will. Balance. I think some men may have a lot of bluster and confidence, but that confidence is built on their ability to dominate the room. When their girl is a competitor or an equal rather than an accessory, they get freaked out.
My ultimate advice? DATE NERDS. I know they are sometimes funny-looking on the outside, but they are so fun.